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Tamika Beck, CLC
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The key to employing the use of affirmations for visualizing, goal setting, or faith-strengthening requires a determined belief in the words that you speak. Initially, you may not believe what you are saying but the more that you say it, the more real the words become to you. When you choose an affirmation, work on leaning into the feelings that it gives you and let that be your anchor.
Affirmation: I am worthy, wise, and wonderful. Confidence comes naturally to me
What are Affirmations
According to mindtools.com, “affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes.” It’s no secret that we spend a great amount of time having conversations with ourselves that are more harmful than helpful. We live in a social media-saturated world that holds a mirror of distortion in front of us, pointing out all that is wrong, we are buying into the lies of comparison and self-hatred click by click.
To live in the fulfillment of your best life, a shift in your self-talk is necessary. You’ll never be great if you are constantly obsessing about what you aren’t. When you begin celebrating and being grateful for who you are, moving away from a fear-based focus to a faith-infused outlook, your sense of self will be revived. As the saying goes, “speak what you seek until you see what you’ve said.” Yes, there’s more to an affirmation practice than just saying words, you’ve got to buy into what you are saying.
As you believe in the words that you speak. you will notice that how you respond to life’s circumstances will change. I am not telling you that this method will eliminate the ups and downs of living, things are going to happen but when you have a focal point, the drama of life no longer dictates your attitude. You disarm the chaos by looking for the life lessons and applying them. Understand, some days you’ll hit your affirmation target and on other occasions, you will rely upon old ways, it is ok, change is messy in the beginning. When you slip just remember to find your footing and continue to grow.
Affirmation: I am comforted by the memories of fun times with my loved ones
How to begin an affirmation practice
Affirmation: I am balanced and peaceful even in hard situations
We all have struggles, behaviors, and wounds that need to be healed. For me, affirmations have become one of the cornerstones of my healing journey. They keep me mindful, help with anxiety, and fuel my faith. When my life coach introduced me to this method, I had no idea how it would transform my life. Just writing down and repeating words alone won’t uproot limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, nor self-betrayal but when you allow the power of the words to impact your thoughts, decisions, and perception, you will notice that as you change so does your environment. It is said that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit, adopt this method for three weeks and I guarantee you will be amazed by the improvements in your stress levels, faith, and attitude.
2/4/2023 07:47:03 pm
Well going up I was raised by my grandmother most of my life . I went to stay with my mom after about a couple years living with my mom my stepfather was actually physically and her baby abusive we've been the oldest and I kind of took the punishment for my younger brothers and sisters growing I ran away from home once I moved to Miami with my mom and got pregnant I probably getting pregnant I was kind of led to getting abortion but it was kind of sense of it would be pretty straight on my mom and you know that I was I hurt my mom like getting pregnant my mom didn't know about the abuse so when everything happened she just didn't you know understand who aspect until I put down into whatever it was really going on upon that happened I got introduced to him anyway and I was going to say traffic judge tight you know the name of it I've been through it make a long story short and 2014 I got pregnant for the same time and I carried about it before 8 months will turn in the baby didn't make it my mom delivered the baby but she didn't make it I find that happening I kind of felt to a deeper depression after about a couple months so after losing a baby oh my gosh I had her baby and it kind of was a little bit too much for me so that point I have been you know coming of age to be grown so I kind of just veered out the house and ended up again not so long after that I want to be pregnant and my friend being her first grandchild you know she was even more like her her son so basically she told me parking you can live your life you know do what you do I got him but just don't go and get another one oh well that's good a year later I was having another one but I didn't have to tell her and it kind of hurt her being that I hate it from her being that I know it would have hurt her so you know it kind of was a spare the moment thing when she kind of popular where I was found me sleeping with a pregnant stomach yeah so moving right along I wound up having him and she told me that she wasn't going to be there you know cuz you know I hated and I heard her you know I didn't have you know I was going to have a chance to live my life you know how I really wanted to but you know how as I was getting ready to have a sicilian did she walked through the door and that was kind of like the changing moment of my life when I got my life together which was in 2016 since September 23rd 2016 from that day I left everything alone in the streets the drugs I love everything behind me and I got clean finally getting clean my mom was killed July the 3rd 2018 by her husband must have gave me being an oldest I already had one brother and he was the next in my oldest and he wound up getting killed and 20 it's four of us and yeah it's kind of hard because like just when I begin to get my life back in order it's like boom hair is everything all over again I kind of didn't mention the the extent of you know the life I was living at at the time of you know me being in and out and a cocaine addiction it's really hard because it seems like every time I have the villager power to do better it's like you know something comes up and puts me like a million steps backwards so it's like I'm valid trying to get myself back in order back and you know back into a life of where I can become the mom that I want to be the mom that I know I can be the moment I know my mom made me to be it's just like I just need a little bit of help so right now I'm just taking a little guidance as to how in a little advice to some of the things that you know you can give me inside on that's to getting myself back together and getting my life back right I'm not sure if I'm in the right department but at least I've been able to vent to someone at least I hope this isn't taking it to an account of something that can be used to hinder me but something that can be used to better you know gain better inside on how to pick back up my life in the right pieces I hope this wishes to someone that can help me about all I want is for me and my kids to be you know a family that I know I can make I know I can have me in the back strong if there's any way possible that this resist the right person please feel free to email me with some advice or some guidance thank you once again thank you for letting me vent to someone at least I hope this gets the right person once again not used to handing me but used to help me thank you
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