​Recently I came across a study stating that 45% of Black women experience domestic abuse from an intimate partner whether it’s stalking, sexual violence, or physical violence. What causes so many Black women to stay in unhealthy toxic relationships? Primarily it stems from a lack of self-love. 

​Practicing self-care while caring for others is not just a personal choice; it's a necessity. Many of us today find ourselves in the role of caregivers, whether for our elderly parents, children, extended family members, or even our colleagues. This constant juggling of responsibilities can lead to stress, burnout, and significant health and wellness concerns. But what exactly is the difference between stress and burnout? And how can we creatively address our own needs while caring for others?
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​As a 44-year-old anime girlie, seeing Megan Thee Stallion cosplay or watching KevOnStage entering his anime era makes my heart smile. For those who know me best, they know how crucial the world of anime has been to my life. Just like a long walk or maybe a favorite book, anime pulls me into a different realm and allows me to decompose, clear my head or focus.

As we kick off the start of the new year tis the season for renewed acts of self-care. Normally acts of self-care are scheduled around work hours, maybe a run beforehand to clear your mind, yoga after work to unwind or a weekend massage to release the tension of the week. 

​Your pain is heard Sister. As a Black woman, you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. Taking care of kids, building your career/business, and facing many injustices in the world that are often ignored. Society has taught you that you are a strong Black woman and indeed you are. However, being strong never meant neglecting you. Being strong means taking care of that bold, brilliant, black image staring at you in the mirror, yourself.