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Fuck Those New Year's Resolutions
I would like to say that I am a go getter and can set resolutions and stick to them. Honestly, that’s just not how my body and brain collaborate. It becomes almost comical for me to think about naming a task or goal to accomplish for the entire year. Either I don’t have the attention span for it or I lose the energy to complete it at some point.
On a regular day, I may not feel up to doing certain things and may feel some form of anxiety when those things are left undone. And let’s not forget about the pressure from social media and advertisements to pick up and “try” to do the thing that you know you “need” to do but some how we are unable to currently. (Please note I did not say cannot do.)
We see those before and after photos. We hear the personal growth stories. We watch the development and flourishing of relationships. So what do we do when we see all of this? We answer the call and set a resolution. Because setting a resolution, must solve the problem of why we or I have been unable to complete or accomplish xyz RIGHT?
For me, I usually answer this question around the month of March. The answer is a very loud NO! Setting a resolution has never answered the question of why certain things were not accomplished. Sometimes resolution setting sets you up for disappointment. Its not because you are unable to meet the goal. Its most likely because you have not addressed why it’s difficult for you in the first place.
I had to come to terms with this for myself. Resolutions were not beneficial for me. They only made me feel bad when I didn’t meet the goal which made me want to isolate in shame. It took some time, but I learned that for myself resolutions added unnecessary stress and negative energy to my life that I really didn’t need at the beginning of a year.
This thinking didn’t happen overnight it took a couple of unaccomplished new year resolutions to figure it out. And since I know I am far from alone in experiencing new year resolution disappointment, here are some things that I learned over the years that helped me have a more functional year.
At the end of the day, new year resolutions do not have the be the guiding light for your year. The entire year belongs to you. Which means you have 12 months to decide the direction that is better for your life. So, if you are like me, its perfectly okay to say fuck those new year resolutions and just enjoy whatever journey you are on.
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