Love Your Honey Pot

Kaycee' L. Sara 

Guest Contributor 

​Reading discretion advised

When is the last time you looked at your yoni, your vagina, your p****y, your pocketbook, your coochie, your honey pot? Just stopped to admire her/him/she. This is a question I’ve asked every single women I’ve encountered in my private healing mental spiritual wellness practice.

I take pictures of my yoni almost daily. I admire her beauty. I speak like into her. I ask her for guidance. Together, we have healed the generations of trauma we have collectively endured. I send pictures of my yoni to my boyfriend to admire and adorn in a non-sexual way. There is nothing sexual about my intense intimate relationship with my yoni—well until she tells me she wants sensual attention.

Women, especially women of color continue to be overly sexualized in the media. On the internet. In entertainment. In the world at large. This stems from when we were taken from our home continent of Africa---sold to the highest bidder based on how sexual our bodies were. Slave women were “worth more” when their yonis were “untampered with”. This disgusting notion that women of color are just sex objects to be bought and sold solely for the enjoyment and pleasure of men and to bare children is something that we must heal from as a collective.

There is a book that has helped me along this journey of full acceptance and true alignment with my honey pot. “P***sy Prayers: Sacred and Sensual Rituals for Wild Women of Color”—By Black Girl Bliss. This workbook is phenomenal in the way of taking you on a journey of self-discovery, self-love and full bloom based on this beautiful spiritual portal between a women’s legs.

Many women struggle their entire lives with storing and holding trauma in their wombs from sexual assaults, inappropriate and outdated religious beliefs, low self-esteem, failed relationships, poor family dynamics and overall disconnection from their bodies. I challenge you today to work towards letting all that go. The important questions to ask yourself to start this process would be—“How is my trauma presenting in me?” “Am I truly ready to define my own boundaries, live in my own truth and honor my yoni?’

I urge you to join me every morning and or night---place your hands on your vagina. Tell her/she/him. “I love you. Thank you for being self-cleansing and healing. Thank you for being the base of my body. Thank you for your unique beauty. Thank you for your power. Thank you for your guidance. Thank you for loving our storehouse. Thank you for attracting my best partner. Thank you for being you”.

You are whole, healed and complete. Your yoni, honey pot, coochie, vagina, pocketbook is beyond words powerful. Take time each day to heal your honey pot. Sit back and watch the miracles unfold. 

Kaycee' L. Sara

​Kaycee’ L. Sara LCSW is a heartfelt healer whose primary areas of expertise are women’s holistic wellness, forensic mental health, spirituality coaching and wellness supportive services in practice for over 15 years with Los Angeles county department of mental health. She is the founder of Lotushelps where she shares her passion providing spiritual, mental, and emotional supportive wellness services to underserved communities particularly women of color/LGBTQ+ via individual, family, group and life coaching services. IG: @LotusHelps